Divorce and Church size

Dear Reader,

A couple of the blogs I read (here and here) are buzzing about divorce in the church. I appreciate the discussion. And I do agree with the original poster that a large number of divorces could be a sign of a church that needs help. Though I would be cautious about making blanket statements. Every marriage, like every individual, is unique and I do think there are some valid reasons to divorce. So I wouldn’t want to be hasty about judging another’s situation in this area.

My main problem with all of this though is: Why don’t you know who is your church is getting divorced?? By the time a couple is entering divorce proceedings, there has already been a problem for a while. They may not be past help, but wouldn’t it be even better to get at the root problem earlier?  An elder in our old church used to say that when the elders (those are the spiritual leaders in a presbyterian church; it might be called something else in your church) can’t name every child in the church by name, the church has gotten too big. And I agree with this. We need to know the people in our churches. How else can we care for them?

If there is an epidemic of divorce in churches, then we need to get at the root of the problem. And the root is sin. There are either people in the church who aren’t truly believers or who are but are falling too deeply in to sin. So we need to preach God’s Word. The Word of God is a powerful too-edged sword, able to pierce between soul and spirit. And we need to be involved in one another’s lives, enough that we will know when there are problems and be able to help. And we need to confront one another when we see persistent, unrepentant sins. And we need to exercise church discipline. The Bible gives directions for how to do all these things in a godly manner, without it dengenerating into gossip and just generally being judgmental.

Jesus says that Moses gave you divorce because of the hardness of your hearts. Sometimes divorce may be necsesary. But it is the hardness of the human heart that we need to address.  



2 responses to this post.

  1. Posted by terrybreathinggrace on August 28, 2010 at 12:57 pm

    Appreciate the the link and your additional commentary..

    We go to a big church and my thouhts have often mirrrored yours.


  2. […] as so many others, including the epidemic of divorce in  Protestant churches which I blogged about here. The basic problem in each case is man’s (by which I mean to include woman’s as well) […]


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )


Connecting to %s

Sabbath Mood Homeschool

Desiring That a Sabbath Mood Rest on Your Homeschool


my musings, wise or otherwise

Festival Fete

locally grown art, food, and merriment


A Literary Homestead


Blogging about education, theology, and more

Harmony Fine Arts

Blogging about education, theology, and more

The Common Room

....Blogging about cabbages and kings since 2005.

Sage Parnassus

Blogging about education, theology, and more

A peaceful day

Blogging about education, theology, and more

Living Charlotte Mason in California

Blogging about education, theology, and more


Weekly Walrus Whatevers

Creations by Maris

Handwoven Textiles

Fisher Academy International ~ Teaching Home

Blogging about education, theology, and more


Blogging about education, theology, and more

Leah's Bookshelf

Book Reviews You Can Trust

Duxbury Art Boosters

Supporting the visual arts in Duxbury Public Schools

Just Right Porridge

... you'll lick your bowl clean...